During therapy with Victoria, you will be able to learn more about yourself and your true desires, understand life situations and look at them from a different angle, notice patterns of behavior that prevent you from living. Thanks to the therapist, you will be able to realize your needs and see opportunities for their realization, establish relationships in the family, with a partner and at work, increase self-esteem and reach new heights in your career. The specialist works in the Gestalt therapy method and consults only adult clients. Victoria’s uniqueness lies in the fact that during her work she conducts behavioral experiments, pays attention to body language, helps to look at the problem in a new way and find various solutions, and focuses on deep experiences. The specialist also conducts couples consultations, during which she helps resolve conflicts, improve communication, overcome codependency, and build personal boundaries.
Fear is a basic and natural feeling that signals danger. Our body reacts to a possible threat in the environment. When we are afraid, we can have different reactions: we can freeze, act actively, show aggression, run away, ignore fear. The main function of fear is self-preservation.
Therefore, being afraid is normal, and moreover, fear is a useful feeling.
With the help of fear, we understand what is important to us. Behind fears are always our desires and needs. So, fearing rejection, I want to be accepted. The fear of losing my job, for example, speaks of its value.
Our fears can be roughly divided into fears related to physical danger , which help us survive. And there are social fears , which are related to danger to us as social beings. For example, the fear of loneliness, criticism, rejection, betrayal.
Fear is unpleasant to experience, and it can stop us from doing something. That’s why we want to get rid of it and not feel it. But paradoxically, it is looking your fear in the eye that can help you cope. By this I mean – to realize your fear and live it .
It is important to examine your fear and ask yourself: what exactly am I afraid of? Who am I afraid of and what actions scare me? These questions will help you learn more about your fear and differentiate it. In general, fear arises where you stop being interested in yourself, your inner world, because interest is the opposite of fear.
The next step is to think about how I can take care of my safety. What can I influence to make myself safer. For example, when giving a public speech, I may be afraid of getting confused and forgetting my speech, then I will make notes for myself, where I will look. If I am afraid of criticism from the audience, I will invite my friends to support me.
Fear can be viewed as a projective mechanism . This is when I fear what I do not notice or forbid in myself, and endow others with this property. Thus, by splitting off my aggressiveness, the world around me will seem hostile. By appropriating what has been split off, we regain our integrity and strength.
Also, some fears can be the result of traumatic experiences in the past. For example, fear of loneliness or fear of intimacy. In this case, psychotherapy, in which the trauma is experienced and healed, can help.
I like the old saying: the eyes fear, but the hands do. For me, it’s about doing what you want to do despite your fear . To question your fear, to remember your supports and resources, to worry about your safety, to be afraid and act anyway.